Everyday life is taking its toll on us all. Whether it’s the office stress, the kids that sometimes, just sometimes, prove hard to cope with, the spouse that can on occasion be less than understanding or a general feeling of ennui that creeps on us here and there. Ce la vie, the French say. Indeed, such is life. Or to put it in another way, these are the side effects of being an adult.
So what do we do to balance, to find some solace? Well, we all have our little tricks, stolen moments that we shut off the world and focus on giving ourselves a little boost. More often than not, our little tricks are described as ‘guilty pleasure’. While many react negatively to the idea of guilty pleasures, as suggested by the first word; if we feel guilt, it must mean we are doing something wrong, something bad.
But that’s not necessarily so, as suggested by the second word.
Embrace the Pleasure Discard the Guilt
During the moment itself – when we scoop that ice-cream, when we watch an awfully silly daytime drama on the telly, when we sneak a cigarette when no one is around – we feel gooooood. We are immersed in the moment, doing the thing we know gives us pleasure. When we disregard what ‘the world’ would think of us, and even more so, what we ourselves would think later on, we relish every second of the experience.
So why it is when the moment passes – when we take the last puff, the credits run, the bowl is licked clean – the guilty part comes in. It is then the little voices in our head forge on with their never-ending nudging. ‘You shouldn’t have consumed all these calories’; ‘Cigarettes are sooooo bad for you’; ‘What a waste of 30 minutes’.
If we separate the moment itself from the mumble-jumble that follows we can realise that it is not the act itself that is ‘bad’ for us, but what we do to ourselves afterwords. Because seriously, how bad can a little bowl of ice cream now and then can be? And 30 minutes of being lost in a ridiculous made-up-world would bring the real world to a halt? And talking about time management, if you don’t have 30 minutes for yourself a few times a week, well, do something about it.
Being Bad Feels Good
We all deserve these little acts of ‘sin’, because they make us feel good and they’re not really sins. Not really. They are measured acts of rebellion. Yes, that’s right – we are all rebels with a cause. A great cause. To treat ourselves right occasionally, to shut off the criticising voice that always knows what’s bad for us. So why it is all those bad things make us so happy? There’s no other answer then – because they’re not bad!
It’s time we’ll be more forgiving with ourselves. We should pour that glass of wine after the kids are in bed with a big smile on our face. We should enjoy every sip. We should gladly play that new slot game we put our eyes on, the one with the funny flowers, or the other one with Jack and the beanstalk; this one always takes us back to our childhood, to a time when books (the paper kind) were exciting and fun, even in 2D.
We wouldn’t do these things if they weren’t good for us. When was the last time you did something, purposely, that’s not good for you? Did you ever bang your knee on purpose against the kitchen counter? Are you in the habit of selecting bad-tasting food in the supermarket? Do you usually take the road you know will be gridlocked?
What it all comes down to is our perception of it. If we take to it with positive feelings and attitude the affect on us will be a positive one. If we squirm and play the blame game with ourselves it is sure to backfire. So start the practice of giving yourself a little break, letting yourself get lost sometimes in life’s little pleasures. Stay in the moment – the enjoyable, pleasurable moment – and once it’s over, well, instead of being hard on yourself about it, start planning the next one. Ce la vie.
Keep on Spinning in the Free World
So what it all comes down to is this: playing online slots is fun, and exciting, and makes us feel good. And we can also win money. What more can you ask? And from what we learned today, if ti makes us feel good it must be good for us. Of course we should take this last declaration with a grain of salt, but hey, we are talking here about some harmless fun, online, to blow off some steam and win some cash along the way. Sounds like a pretty sweet deal.